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The Cure for Sleep: Reading
Season 2, 008: Scenes from our reading lives: What books (given, lent, lost, found, shared, annotated, more) - or memories of reading/being read to - are at the heart of our own stories?
The Cure for Sleep was published in January, and ten months later my last public events for it have only just finished. And so this book that contains much of my and my husband’s shared life this last thirty years? It can rest now on a shelf at home, just one among many hundreds, which is as it should be. And Nye and I can begin to return to what we were before publication day: readers of books, rather than characters within one.
And if you’ve read our story, you’ll know how much our life has been shaped by the words of dead and distant authors, our main companions through our shy twenties. As two introverted working-class kids who had the good fortune to meet and band together at university, we used our evenings and weekends to read, read, read:
Going magpie-like through biographies became our shared passion: how Lawrence made a home with Frieda from each rented cottage by distempering the walls, sewing lampshades; the way Woolf and the rest of the Bloomsbury Group remade arrangements for living and loving; what it cost women poets of my mother’s generation when they dared to voice their sexual selves.
We were learning through those late nights of our early twenties (so we believed) to go beyond our class, its constraints, and design a life of our own
Shadrick, Tanya. The Cure for Sleep (p. 74). Orion.
Later, when my perspective of life had been shaken to its core by my sudden near-death as a new mother, I found in Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass a book like a secular prayer to keep close for courage as I tried to design a new way of being that could honour even a little of the great generosity and connection-beyond-work-and-family I’d experienced in what I believed were my last minutes of living. And lines from that book run now through my own as section epigraphs: a small way of honouring my debt to it.
On Laughter and Forgetting
A book story not in The Cure for Sleep, but key to its being written, relates to a copy of The Book of Laughter and Forgetting by Milan Kundera that had been left by a previous guest in a hotel room on my childhood coast. It was June 2018, in the early aftermath of a great loss of love, and I was there to nurse my shame and heartbreak. I took Kundera’s novel out onto the cliff path with me, even though I was finding it difficult to read with pleasure or concentration for the first time: all books become a painful reminder that I had never written one, and likely never would now I was so mired in emotional mess.
But the minute I opened it something uncanny happened.
There on the page was an unusual word of great significance in my relationship just ended. And immediately after this, a ray of light fell across the paper, so bright I had to close my eyes. And as I did, a thought came - unbidden, from outside; as if said to me by another person, although I was quite alone.
You will write a book. Soon. And it will have a title like this one. Simple words, big forces. It will be the story of your small personal life - the only story you have - and yet done with the purpose of calling forth the stories of others.
The light shifted. I went back to Kundera. Read him in a single sitting as I hadn’t managed with a book for several years. But it wasn’t an instant and completely healing epiphany. Much of my life continued to feel only failed, mistaken, for many months to come.
But at the very end of the following summer? The idea for The Cure for Sleep arrived with me, all at once, and by a similarly uncanny method: just as predicted in that strangely-lit clifftop moment.
your invitation to write
One of the deepest pleasures while doing festivals, workshops and mentoring sessions this year was to learn in return what books or reading habits had life-shaping importance to others. Hence this month’s prompt, below…
Share a scene or story from your intimate life as a reader: your relationship to an author, a book, a character, or only passages/lines from a story or poem. Or: tell us about an experience of reading, the act of it - alone or with others - that has made a mark on you.
You can read the stories already contributed by readers over on The Cure For Sleep website: bedtime stories | memory games | bonding | choosing | promises | size & shape| time | desire | regret | faith | rebirth | play | hands | mirrors | friends | skill | longing | mentors | birthday letters
(All themes are still open for contributions, so that subscribers with time or health limits have the opportunity to take part as and when they are able.)
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from ‘Atlas of the Difficult World: XIII’ by Adrienne Rich
I know you are reading this poem as you pace beside the stove warming milk, a crying child on your shoulder, a book in your hand because life is short and you too are thirsty. I know you are reading this poem which is not in your language guessing at some words while others keep you reading and I want to know which words they are. I know you are reading this poem listening for something, torn between bitterness and hope turning back once again to the task you cannot refuse. I know you are reading this poem because there is nothing else left to read there where you have landed, stripped as you are.
Read the whole poem here, or find it in An Atlas of the Difficult World: Poems 1988-1991 (W.W.Norton)
signed & inscribed copies of The Cure for Sleep
Deadline 4 December 2022: If you’d like to order a signed copy of the hardback to give as a Christmas or New Year present - specifying too a personalised inscription you’d like me to add - then you are invited to do this by no later than 4 December through the beautiful Much Ado Books at Alfriston. The order form that Cate and Nash have set up allows you to request the words you’d like me to include when going in to sign…
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